Process Benefits

Create Collaborative Leadership Styles
Create a Bully-Free
Workplace
Create a Psychologically Healthy and Profitable Workplace and Contribution
Reduce the Destructive
Effects of Conflict
"Happiness" and Emotional
Intelligence (EI)

LifePsych® Parenting Checklist

"Self Above Service"

Based on entitlement beliefs and decisions that put “self-interest” above nurturing children using Entitlement, Domination and Withdrawal in a self-serving "authoritarian" control style.

"Service Beyond Self"

Based on beliefs of self-respect and respect for children while courageously moving beyond self-interest toward a Connected, Cooperative, and Contributing family harmony.

Entitled versus Contributing Parents

Parental Entitlement Over the children versus Efforts to ContributeToward a Functional Family.

Entitlement

Contribution

Acts as if “all knowing” or “all powerful” while ruling over the children.
(Ruling Entitlement)

Masterfully leads the family into the future as a positive, functional parental role model.
(Leading Contribution)

Arrogantly brags about own parenting as being superior to other parents.
(Egotistical Entitlement)

Make special efforts to invest in parenting beyond own self-interest.
(Benevolent Contribution)

Dictates and intimidates children with a presumed sense of self-importance.
(Intimidating Entitlement)

Strive to respectfully persuade children with positive guidance.
(Persuasive Contribution)

Creates special privileges for self with little regard for the impact on children.
(Status-seeking Entitlement)

Creates activity that promotes useful privileges for all members of the family.
(Achievement-seeking Contribution)

Places self-centered interests ahead of parenting efforts.
(Self-centered Entitlement)

Create activity the promotes meaningful parenting efforts.
(Task-centered Contribution)

Entitlement sum = _____                                       Contribution sum = _____

 

 

 

 

 

Dominating versus Cooperative Parents

Domination Over Children versus Efforts to Cooperate Respectfully With Children.

Domination

Cooperation

Controls children for the purpose of demonstrating power over them.
(Power-seeking Domination)

Promote the attitude for treating children respectfully as equal persons.
(Equality-seeking Cooperation)

Tries to control children with the use of criticism and fault finding.
(Critical Domination)

Works toward helping children do better with a supportive and encouraging attitude.
(Encouraging Cooperation)

Manipulates children or maneuvers children for self-serving advantage.
(Manipulative Domination)

Guides children toward creating mutual and useful family benefit.
(Collaborative Cooperation)

Resists cooperation or intentionally work against children.
(Opposing Domination)

Seek out ways to affirm children in a supportive manner.
(Affirming Cooperation)

Is quick to retaliate with moody and crabby mannerisms toward children.
(Revenge seeking Domination)

Understands the importance of encouraging children.
(Nurturing Cooperation)

Domination sum = _____                                       Cooperation sum = _____

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Withdrawing versus Connected Parents

Withdrawal From Children versus Efforts to Connect Trustfully With Children

Withdrawal

Connection

Seem indifferent to the task and energy required to raise children.
(Indifferent Withdrawal

 

Express positive energy toward child guidance activities.
(Enthusiastic Connection)

Act as if cannot relate to children or seems insensitive to children.
(Insensitive Withdrawal)

Initiate efforts in response to children and listens to children.
(Responsive Connection)

Avoids using energy for ordinary child guidance activity..
(Action suppressed Withdrawal)

Responds constructively and initiates action toward the children.
(Action expressed Connection)

Is hesitant to express thoughts and ideas with the children.
(Thought suppressed Withdrawal)

Assertively expresses ideas and thoughts with the children.
(Thought expressed Connection)

Avoids interacting with children and becomes disconnected with children.
(Detached Withdrawal)

Is friendly and initiates friendly interactions with children.
(Participating Connection)

 

Withdrawal sum = _____                                           Connection sum = _____

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                

 

Self Above Service (SAS)                                       Service Beyond Self (SBS)

         (Total of 3 Area Scores)                                                                                                  (Total of 3 Area Scores)  

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