Process Benefits

Create Collaborative Leadership Styles
Create a Bully-Free
Create a Psychologically Healthy and Profitable Workplace and Contribution
Reduce the Destructive
Effects of Conflict
"Happiness" and Emotional
Intelligence (EI)

LifePsych® Child Checklist

"Self Above Service"

Based on entitlement beliefs and decisions that puts “self-interest” above other children using Entitlement, Domination and Withdrawal in a self-serving "bossy" style.

"Service Beyond Self"

Based on beliefs of self respect and respect for other children while courageously moving beyond self-interest toward a Connected, Cooperative, and Contributing harmony with other children.

Entitled versus Contributing Children

Entitlement over the children versus efforts to contributetoward good relationships with other children.



Acts as if “all knowing” or “all powerful” while ruling over other children.
(Ruling Entitlement)

Has a postive influence with other children as a positive, functional role model.
(Leading Contribution)

Arrogantly brags about own accomplisments as being superior to other children.
(Egotistical Entitlement)

Seems to care about other children and makes efforts that go beyond own self-interest.
(Benevolent Contribution)

Seems to control other children with a "bossy" attitude.
(Intimidating Entitlement)

Influences other children in a very nice manner.
(Persuasive Contribution)

Tries to get ahead of other children and expects special treatment.
(Status-seeking Entitlement)

Tries to do well with ordinary childhood activitites.
(Achievement-seeking Contribution)


Places self-centered interests ahead of any concerns for other children.
(Self-centered Entitlement)

Tends to be involved with positive tasks without being told.
(Task-centered Contribution)

Entitlement sum = _____                                       Contribution sum = _____






Dominating versus Cooperative Children

Domination over other children versus efforts to cooperate respectfully with other children.



Seems to control other children for the purpose of demonstrating power over them.
(Power-seeking Domination)

Treats other children respectfully as equals.
(Equality-seeking Cooperation)


Tries to control other children with the use of criticism and fault finding.
(Critical Domination)

Works toward helping other children do better with a supportive attitude.
(Encouraging Cooperation)

Manipulates other children for self-serving advantage.
(Manipulative Domination)

Guides other children with positive modeling.
(Collaborative Cooperation)


Seems to intentionally work against other children.
(Opposing Domination)


Seek out ways to affirm other children in a supportive manner.
(Affirming Cooperation)

Is quick to retaliate in moody and crabby ways toward other children.
(Revenge seeking Domination)

Understands the importance of encouraging other children.
(Nurturing Cooperation)

Domination sum = _____                                       Cooperation sum = _____












Withdrawing versus Connected Children

Withdrawal rom other children versus efforts to connect trustfully with other children



Seems indifferent to ordinary childhood activities.
(Indifferent Withdrawal



Express positive excitement toward child oriented activities.
(Enthusiastic Connection)

Act as if cannot relate to other children or seems insensitive to other children.
(Insensitive Withdrawal)

Makes an effort to respond to other children and listens to other children.
(Responsive Connection)

Tends to avoid ordinary childhood activities.
(Action suppressed Withdrawal)


Responds constructively and initiate action toward ordinary childhood activities.
(Action expressed Connection)

Avoids expression of thoughts and ideas.
(Thought suppressed Withdrawal)


Assertively expresses ideas and thoughts with other children.
(Thought expressed Connection)

Avoids interacting withother children and becomes disconnected with other children.
(Detached Withdrawal)

Is friendly and initiates friendly interactions with other children.
(Participating Connection)


Withdrawal sum = _____                                           Connection sum = _____





















Self Above Service (SAS)                                       Service Beyond Self (SBS)

         (Total of 3 Area Scores)                                                                                                  (Total of 3 Area Scores)  





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